Fears Hold Us Back

Glossophobia, the fear of public speaking is common. Those with glossophobia often overestimate the stakes of communicating their ideas in front of others, viewing the speaking event as a potential threat to their credibility. Fear of public speaking is not so much related to the quality of a speech as it is to how the speaker feels, thinks, or acts when faced with speaking in public.

The above is familiar to me. A few years ago, I was asked to speak to an audience of around six hundred people. This caused me high anxiety. I was concerned that I might appear silly, foolish, or incompetent on the stage.

How Does Our Fear of Appearing Incompetent Inhibit Us?

We avoid challenges:

We might avoid taking on new tasks or challenges because we fear failure or being judged as incompetent. This can limit our growth and opportunities for learning.

We overwork to perfect:

The fear of making mistakes can lead to perfectionism, where we spend excessive time and effort trying to make everything perfect. This can result in procrastination and reduced productivity.

We don't take risks:

Fear of incompetence can make us less likely to take risks, which are often necessary for innovation and progress. We might stick to what we know, missing out on potential advancements.

We second-guess:

When we're overly concerned about appearing incompetent, we might second-guess our decisions or rely too heavily on others' opinions, leading to indecisiveness and lack of confidence.

We unnecessarily worry:

Constantly worrying about how others perceive our competence can lead to increased stress and anxiety, which can negatively impact our mental and physical health. What is the Alternative?

Humility:

Humility is an attitude of spiritual modesty that comes from understanding our place in the larger order of things. It entails not taking our desires, successes, or failings too seriously.

Surprisingly, research suggests that our imperfections can actually make us more likable and relatable

Taking Risks for Growth:

The fear of failure comes from looking at a situation as a black-and-white. You’ve either won or lost, made it or not. Not only does this attitude negate the gray, but it also focuses exclusively on the outcome. The process gets lost.

Instead of viewing failures as permanent roadblocks or character flaws, imagine looking at them as opportunities to get stronger. By changing your perspective on missteps and setbacks, you actually learn from those experiences while also staying true to yourself.

How do you ensure your leaders maintain their growth mindset, humility and a healthy dose of professional risk-taking?

About the Author 

Angela Richardson is a master’s qualified expert in people leadership and change management. Angela has dedicated over 25 years to helping organisations build resilience to thrive and grow amidst uncertainty. Her practice focuses on equipping leaders with the knowledge, skills and mindsets needed to navigate and adapt to change effectively. 

Contact Angela, at angela@angelarichardson.com.au or on 0488 097 885